Happy Fathers Day!

There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think of my father. Even after almost 32 years since his passing at the young age of 50, he’s still always on my mind and in my heart.

I’ve been talking to him all of these years, because I truly believe that he listens to me prattle on about this and that.

He’s shown me a few signs that he’s still around, especially when I specifically ask for guidance. (He’s been on call 24/7 these last few months.)

He still has the power to help give me the love and strength that I need to keep on fighting.


My handsome dad on his wedding day.

I visited his grave for the first time in years last week with my new boyfriend. I dropped to my knees and started to cry, brushing the grass and dirt from his gravestone. The cemetery crew does an excellent job of keeping everything tidy, but I just felt compelled to trace his name with my fingers.

Happy Fathers Day! Remember, if it wasn’t for them, none of us would be here.

(And not all men are assclowns.)


Take Care of You


Just set it down, my friend

You’ve done all you could do

Before your very soul caves in


You must take care of you

Lessons Learned


A true friend has two main jobs; to love and then protect you from the things that they know will cause you pain. If they can’t do these simple things for you, then they’re not really your friends.

Not everyone is born with empathy.

Learn the difference between a sincere apology and a passive aggressive one.

Once you truly love yourself for who you are, flaws, baggage and all, you’ll find a world filled with gratitude and possibilities.

The only way to grow as a person is to face your demons head on and allow yourself to run the gamut of natural human emotions, with the knowledge that you’ll come out stronger for it in the end.

We are all survivors of our traumas, not victims.

It’s never too late to rewire your brain.

As softhearted as you might be, don’t tolerate any kind of bullshit from anyone.

You have the right to decide who you want to be in your life or not. It’s called free will.

It’s fucking impossible to have an adult conversation with an idiot. Don’t waste your time or energy sparring with someone like that, just eat a cookie instead.

Try not to let the cruelty of the world harden your heart and make you afraid to love deeply and strongly.

Regardless of the old saying, sometimes you really do need to burn a few bridges.

I recommend Acme Dynamite.


Keeping your cool is one of the most powerful weapons that you can have in your arsenal.

Pick your battles wisely, because life isn’t meant to be spent constantly pissed off about something trivial.

Not everyone you meet in life is meant to stay forever. When you feel that the relationship is no longer healthy for you, try to accept it the best that you can and then move on.

Don’t give someone permission to judge your journey or try to knock you off of your mountain. Remember, you’ve worked your ass off to get up there and you deserve to see the view without any barriers.

If someone tries to trip you because you’re running gleefully away from your old ways, antiquated views and stagnant life, just laugh it off.

They fucking hate that.