The Short Version

In my post yesterday, I hinted about something that happened to me back in July.

Then I admitted the truth in my comments section and told another blog friend on her own site. I suppose you could say that I was ready to just come out with the truth instead of holding it in.

This is where I would normally add a fart joke or something for an easy laugh, but because this topic isn’t funny, I’ll refrain.

shh


Before I go on any further, I promise that I am mostly alright. The initial shock of it is now over with, so I can put the bandage on and off at my leisure.

I prefer when it’s on.

I don’t want to share details, so I’m going to write the short version.

My husband placed an ad looking for a hook up because I wasn’t frosting his flakes.

The woman he was pursuing somehow found out about me and left me a message on my KOBAF Facebook page.

I hope you forgive me, but I just can’t disclose any more of the lurid parts.

I’ve told some close friends, my immediate family is aware of it and just last weekend I finally told my therapist. So, I’m not dealing with this bullshit alone.

And as for my marriage, only time will tell, I suppose. I have no answers right now or any kind of annoying platitudes.

Those old chestnuts can take a flying leap off of Fuck You mountain.

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54 thoughts on “The Short Version

  1. It was difficult to hit ‘like’ because I feel the distress of what you’re going through. I’m glad you wrote about it. I hope that it will help you, I know it will help others. Right up close, right in the middle is difficult to have insight or answers. My answer, in the difficult times of my life when I was successful, was holding true self and being patient to sort through uncomfortable to what was good and right for me.

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    • Thank you. Yes, that’s pretty much where I’m at right now. It’s confusing and painful at the same time. Well, it’s many different things. I’m actually quite proud of how I’ve handled it so far.

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  2. I did not want to hit like on this either. I don’t like what happened to you, but I love how you are dealing with it. You do what you need to get through this, at your own pace, on your own conditions. Until someone walks in your shoes, no judgement should ever be made.

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  3. I just wanted to say you are handling it better than I did. I found out about the ex’s little flings in much the same way. I felt betrayed, hurt, and physically ill at the thought of what might have been brought into my home. I could no longer trust the love of my life and finally had the guts to stand up and end it. I tried to forgive but the forgetting part proved too difficult.
    I hope you find peace and that things work out in a way that benefits you. Keep writing about stuff like this, it makes people like me feel not so alone.

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    • Oh, I’m so sorry. I feel like that right now, exactly like that. I’ll keep writing about it here and there, but at this moment in time, I feel like I’m in some kind of limbo. Now that my therapist knows, I’m sure that she’ll help me to decide what to do. x

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  4. I wish I knew what to say to you but I don’t, I’m awful when it comes to that. But I do know that you’ve got it in you to face all kinds of storms and so many people to stand by you. So I’m just gonna leave a… very awkward, supposedly warm hug for you here. ❤❤

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  5. You already know how I feel about things. So, all I can say is take however long you need to decide things, do things or forgive (if that’s possible) Forgetting is impossible I know, as I went through this kind of shit years ago with the ex. So, hugs my friend and know I love you. ❤

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  6. Like so many others, I was hesitant to hit like, nor will I offer you any platitudes. Ultimately I hope that you’ll do what’s right for YOU – no judgment here, whatever the decision might be.

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  7. I love that you wrote that you’re proud of how you’re handling it. I’ve had that same feeling. A strength or hell, survival instinct, kicks in that I didn’t know was there.

    Damn… life. Never a boring bitch, is it?

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  8. Gentle Hugs My Friend, you know what is right for You, I love ya Mer, love yourself and love your daughter, work through it at your own pace! I’m a good ear if ya need one! Just like Jackie I’m not going anywhere. ❤

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  9. Shit, I’m sorry. I wasn’t expecting that as a post. I hit the favorite/star button to show support. ❤ Do what you feel is right for you. No one has the right to judge you either way and if they do they can surely fuck off the mountain quickly, I might add.

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  10. There’s really no combination of words that are going to magically make you feel better. Obviously, all of us are saddened to hear what you’re going through. I hope you’re taking care of yourself the best you can 😢

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  11. A friend of mine found out about his wife’s affair because she had left her emails open. I’ve read that anywhere from one third to two thirds of marriages have a cheating partner, but we’re all so dishonest or embarrassed about it that we can’t really know how often it happens.

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  12. Cheaters suck. Having said that I know this one gal whose husband cheated and she forgave him against all advice and they been doing great for 10 years now. Best relationship I know actually. So do what your heart tells you to do (but let your brain offer some sound advice).

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  13. I’m sorry to hear about broken trust anytime. I left my last husband at 39 and never looked back. It’s all I can do to take care of my own self. Now when I feel bad or I’m moody, I know it’s just me. Not sure this is something anyone else can understand. I don’t have someone else making me feel guilty for feeling bad. I’m so sorry you are going through this.

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  14. Unbelievable! Damn! I go away for a week and you reveal such devastating news. What the hell? I hope his balls shrivel up and die. Seriously, I am sorry this happened. You have a lot of years with this man. I’m glad you aren’t knee jerking your reaction. You will handle it on YOUR time on YOUR playing field. You get to decide what happens next. Love you Mer. ~Kim

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    • I hope his balls shrivel up and die. LMAO

      Yeah, see what happens when you leave on a trip?

      Seriously, I am in a limbo state right now. But, I am working with my therapist and thinking clearly. Time will only tell.

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      • If only I could afford one, haha!! Watch out bitches, Mer is on the warpath!!
        Thanks for your support, Kim. This happened in mid-July so I’ve had time to cool off.
        Oh…and I slapped him so hard, his tooth punctured his gum and made him bleed. I had no idea I was strong enough to inflict such an injury. Hot damn.

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